I have been chasing happiness for all of my life. I have found that it is not about chasing from the prospective of not having happiness but letting go of my stories relating to the lack of happiness.
My purpose for this blog post is to help you to understand how your mind works and how that is working against the law of attraction, until you tweak your thinking to serve you rather than working against you. Be willing to work from your own precious heart not your mind.
Your mind wants to keep you safe. It thinks that it knows everything and creates stories in order to work out how life is and what you need to do to fix whatever is going on in your life so that you will be safe. These judgements don’t keep you safe they often just make you feel bad.
The law of attraction on the other hand is working on what you are focusing on. If that is the problem that feels so bad then you are only going to get more of the problem.
I have found in my life that I have been programed to believe that lack and limitation is real. Especially with regards to love. I felt like a victim in life. That life was not fair and that people did awful things to me and all I could do is tolerate this behavior.
But when I realized how important it was to love myself then everything changed for me. Loving myself included doing things I love to do. Aqua fitness and belly dancing is therapy for me. There is a beautiful place near to me where I love to walk.
I had put a lot of things on hold (my mind telling me that I did not need to do anything except fix the problems in my life). Focusing on the problems was the worst thing I could do and I knew that.
Self love is finding your own heart and finding things in your life that you love. I love flowers. I love beauty. I love good movies and I love understanding how life works. Focusing on the beautiful things in life will bring more beauty into my life and I love that (very good reason for more self love).
Even when my life was not working very well at all I found that I had to pay attention to who I really was and how I could feel better in my life.
There is not just a place called “self love”. It is a continual moving for a way to feel better and doing what is right for you. Even when there are people telling you that you are wrong. It is only their opinion and you don’t need to take it on.
There are always going to be people who don’t understand you. But you can come back to a place in your heart and truly know that is the only place to be.
There is peace and understanding in your heart. There is love and truly all the rest doesn’t matter when you are in a place of self love.
Be prepared to tell people when you feel that they are being unfair. I used to do this in an aggressive way because it was something that was really new to me but it is important to learn how to calmly be assertive. I am still working on that.
The law of attraction is always working for you (not against you) but you need to be clear on what it is you want not what you don’t want. This is the important distinction.
I hope that this helps you. Go forth and love life because there is so much to love is you only allow it.
Nameste,
Susan
