I have used Oracle Cards for some time now and today I drew “No Place like home” a number of times and it really spoke to me about my authentisity and how I have impacted the people around me when I have not really been true to who I really am.
Most of my life I have been a people pleaser and it was more important than anything else that people liked me. I would do any thing to have other’s approval. But the cost of that was I did not really like myself and in time the very people who’s approval was so important to me became people who I felt some resent towards because I felt that I had given everything of myself and they had not felt any need at all to give to me, but more importantly the very fact that I had felt this resentment has caused me a great deal of grief as well as others who have felt this from me.
What can I do if someone is treating me in a way that is less than I deserve?
I have 2 options really 1. Just take it on the chin and say nothing but beware this choice is easy but at the end of the day you lose a valuable opportunity to let the other person really know you. The second option is to gently let the other person know what is really inside of you. This one takes practice and grace (if you are like me then you might have to do a lot of practice!) but this truly is the only option. Take your time don’t say anything out of anger or hurt. Just take some deep breaths and tune into your heart and be really sure that you are coming from a place of love. Both of the people involved in this communication will get the love and really that is all that matters.
The balance of giving and receiving is something that I am now coming to terms with. It is much easier for me to give than receive (that is the way I was programmed from a young age). But to be able to receive is a gift that makes me grow. It makes me happy and it makes me feel loved. So allowing this very important gift in my life is vital to the authentic loving experience.
A few months ago I was introduced to Rikka Zimmerman’s 6 principals and I now have a practice of reading these principals each morning as I wake and again in the evening before I go to bed. I have become more grounded and accepting of life since I have been doing that, so I have included a video of the 6 principals below.
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