Love seemed so elusive to me for most of my life. I knew that I wanted it and tried my best to please everyone else and failed misserably. The point is that everyone outside of myself has their own opinions and thoughts and trying to please them by not doing something that is pleasing to me is just silly. It can never work. The only way I can truly be happy is to help others to understand my wants and needs and to be calm about conveying them so that others can really understand me.